Despite one pervasive misconception that transgender people transition for the approval or acceptance of future sexual partners, when I transitioned there was nothing about the forthcoming experience that assured me I would be seen as desirable. But when you’re trans, it’s hard in a completely different way.I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.I was becoming attractive, to the point where other guys were staring and had lust in their eyes.To say I wish I was a big boy again would not be too far from the truth.
Perhaps talk about how you would like to take the time to get to know someone and take things slowly.
That didn’t stop the intense expression of confusion that spread across his face.“So you’re a man? “Do you know how lucky you are that I’m not, like, crazy?
Because I know plenty of guys who would really do some shit to you.”“No, I’m a woman, a transgender woman,” I answered, trying to make him understand. His entire view of me had changed and there was no going back.
Of course, the world is filled with people who can, and will, accommodate your particular beliefs but, the fact remains that, there is an expectation of sex when it comes to dating in the UK.
In this particular sphere, Now, I’m not saying you need to head up your dating profile with a picture of you clutching the Quran with a tagline saying, “NO SEX PLEASE”, rather, I suggest you initially make it clear that you are looking to settle down.