Ageism is like the elephant in the room when it comes to online dating. I have found that 95 percent of my clients over age 50 tell me that the other gender doesn’t age as well as theirs. Although plenty of men out there are looking for someone their own age, and some women think men their own age are too old, it is more often men who are looking for someone younger.In my experience as a coach, people assume that others their own age aren’t as in shape, as financially successful as younger people. But you know, everyone ages, everyone gets wrinkles, everyone has baggage. They have no problem telling me, I want a woman 20 years younger than I am.The recent series of studies And surprisingly, "too athletic" outranked "not athletic" on the list of potential dealbreakers for women.While 10% of women called "too athletic" a dealbreaker, only 6% saw "not athletic" as a dealbreaker — meaning women might actually prefer couch potatoes to gym rats when it comes to dating. People's dealbreakers may not always be what they say they are, since some may not be willing to admit their actual dealbreakers or even be aware of them.“I didn't want the site to be generic like most other [dating] sites,” Keshian explains.“I wanted to create something that when people met online, they would already have some common ground to build upon.” We spoke with two users of the site to hear about their firsthand experiences trying to find love.Erika Ettin is an online dating coach and founder of A Little Nudge who for the past four and a half years has been helping people navigate sites like and Our Time, providing advice on profiles and pictures, and in some cases even conducting searches and responding to messages.
And because it is such a different animal, it presents a different set of challenges. Where else but online are you a number before you’re a certain smile or a sparkle in the eye?White men are most numerous on mainstream dating sites like OKCupid and and that’s where daters go to look for them.Black women looking to date interracially are up for some stiff competition.Women of contact black women online often exoticize them.Women who do go on dates with those men sometimes find out that they’re more interested in dating a skin color or a stereotype than getting to know them as a person.