Nurame was in her bed when she was woken by an angry mêlée.
In her family's hut there were grown men – an incredible number, 10 or more, all in their 30s, all standing over her father, shouting. At night here, where there is no electricity, perfect darkness falls, and everything becomes a shadow-play of barely visible flickers.
Every woman remembers her wedding day with a tear in her eye – but, here in Ethiopia, the tears are different, and darker, and do not stop.
Nurame Abedo is sitting in her hut high in the clouds, remembering the day she became a wife.
There are only few couples who need to understand that sex experiment is necessary for keeping their marriage.I proposed to "cheat" on her for a few weeks, to talk to and attempt to seduce as many women as possible, and get a real-world understanding of why women want to stay married but also need some illicit action on the side.Of course, on my end, there'd be nothing more than conversation. I searched her eyes for any telltale sign of the Charles-I'm-going-to-punch-you-in-the-face-right-after-I-castrate-you look; nothing.If you back me up a few years — sans wife, kids, dogs, published book on relationships, 1.5 million readers and fans following my relationship advice on Facebook — I was a chronic womanizer; a past she knows about, but never experienced personally. In effect, to become so alluring that she would willingly give herself over, thinking that having sex was her idea.To make matters worse, I wasn't some weak pick-up artist using idiotic dating boot camp approaches that reeked of negativity and douchebaggery on vulnerable women in order to break them down and manipulate them into sex. After all, it's much easier to convince people of things they think they have thought of themselves. There's nothing to fear."After another pregnant pause, she consented with a few words of sage advice:"Don't. Up.", nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.