I recently found out that my husband is a cross dresser. He has a 21 year old son who is really having problems. Finding out about this after 23 years of marriage is tough to grasp. Your marriage is definitely experiencing some problems, to say the least.
I have been married to him for 23 years and have 3 teenage children. I love my husband, but I don’t love what he is doing. He wears make-up, and I know that he has been seeing prostitutes for sex. Talk to your husband and tell him that you still love him, while letting him know how unhappy you are. Let him know that his actions are affecting the entire family.
I am not turned on by his make-up or his dresses; he doesn’t understand why. It is no surprise that your son is having problems handling this.
Another option (if your husband refuses to seek therapy) is for the family to sit down and discuss this situation rationally.
It is very similar to other addictions, which is evident upon closer examination of the various sex addiction signs.
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Over time, however, it typically leads to other types of sexual activity that may be very risky or blatantly dangerous.
For the sex addict, sexual activity provides an intense, intoxicating euphoria or “high” while lacking any genuine emotional connection, intimacy, or love. Once the high wears off, the vicious cycle starts all over again. It has a significant negative impact on his life and often causes a lot of shame and self-loathing.
Puberty also lasts for different lengths of time, depending on the person.
This is completely normal and doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you.