Gay dating protocol

Here's the scenario: You meet a really cute guy who's traveling on business.

He has a boyfriend, and they live together, but they: a) Have an "arrangement," really!! Tell him to call you when the real estate has been divided up and he's actually single. If you are rude, imperious, have nothing interesting to say, and practice questionable hygiene, no one cares how big your tiara is, or whether you own Scotland. If you aren't interested, "Just Say No." But do it nicely.

While these are by no means “rules”, these ideas can offer a means to ground yourself and make the most out of the experience without sabotaging it before it gets off the ground.

Being charming via text doesn’t always equate to having chemistry in person, and far too often gay men read too much into text messaging only to be let down by the real thing.

Call him if you want to chat for a bit before meeting, but don’t continue to text after you have made plans for the first date. They know the parts of you that take years to learn.

Postpone the candle-lit dinner until after the first meeting to ensure that there truly is physical and emotional chemistry and that there appears to be some alignment with your personal requirements for a mate before putting yourself in such a position.

Perhaps the number one rule of dating etiquette is to be yourself!