I have four grown who are trying to set me up (I love them, but what a nightmare!! I highly suggest you get over your fear of online dating, not because it’s perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but because it’s ubiquitous and effective in creating opportunity.
It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. As to where you meet men, yes, there’s one place that’s more effective in making introductions than 100 visits to Whole Foods and Art History class combined.
Rather than dip your toe in the water and give up because you’re intimidated, I highly encourage you to check out Finding the One Online, in which I hold your hand through the entire online dating process, from getting over your fears, to choosing a website, to writing a profile, to flirting with men and so on.
Online dating is becoming far more commonplace that we probably ever realized.
The benchmarks generally happen in 5s and there are two big cut-offs at 40 and 50.
I tell you the truth not to discourage you but to empower you.
If you are a single woman over 40, you have a love history.
If you’ve been married before, the theory goes, you must have the ability to commit. On its own, the word “divorced” conveys only two things: 1) that the person was, at some point, united with another person in a legally sanctioned arrangement; and 2) it ended, and not because one of the partners died.
Plus, at one time, someone else wanted to commit to you for life, never mind that “for life” got demoted to “for a while.” I’m one of the divorced masses. Even if you ask follow-up questions, the answers shed little light on a person’s relationship skills.
But many use the answer as a way to weed out potential dates.
A previous marriage, no matter how short, is the relationship equivalent of earning a college degree. Having been married doesn’t mean you’re any better or worse at relationships than someone who’s never tied the knot.